it's actually just really shitty to tell everyone that you care about that you care about them if what you mean by "care" is anything substantial or imo worth being around. your desire to care is always going to outstrip your capacity to provide it. your brain remembers you at the center of your little personal jesus story but tends to forget all the confused and hurt people you leave behind in your wake. if you cant give them what your brain wants to promise them just shut the fuck up