i think i have absolutely zero patience for moral bluffing. you can actually just not sperg out when someone breaks from whatever orthodox script they're not supposed to deviate from, you can just not act like a security system for your imagined community of likeminded people you imagine will back you in a fight. at it's core it's just religion and religious people are always trying to act like they're more than one person, like they're speaking for many when they talk and that's literally just an intimidation tactic. read it as the threat it is
if you give any ground on this you will eventually surrounded by fascists who will do shit like (in the case of pop feminists), tell you that misandry doesnt exist, does exist and is good, and shouldnt be talked about because that means you're a misogynist all in the same breath
you will never be popular for going against social conservative sentiments, they will do everything they can to attack everyone who associates with you and will make sure that they're always speaking for you, telling your story, ensuring that they control your image, but in my experience it's not worth it trying to keep around people who can be so affected by these games of appearance or rely on others to paint the world for them