@reiko trafficking was one of those terms i could never feel like i had a solid definition of as a kid, people either used it differently from each other or used it super imprecisely (or god forbid refer to legal definitions) and now as an adult i can recognize that when there are terms that are like that it's because people are trying to cover for something fucked up
@reiko @ViciouslyKind often people use these words loaded with multiple meanings to do a kind of bait and switch thing (usually completely unintentionally) so i try to go out of my way to make sure people are on the same page with the definition of a word. one of the easiest tells that someone's on some bullshit is when they react negatively to clarifying questions (usually assuming you're implying something so they can talk for you)