If someone is harassing you, you don’t “owe” it to them to gender them correctly. 1. Stop putting your priorities (“misgendering is bad”) above theirs (their personal fucking safety). 2. People here have, and continue, to twist the narrative of what happened so that the “ultimate sin” here is “misgendering”, not the harassment.
It’s not “misgendering because you don’t like someone”, it’s “not giving a shit about the gender of the person actively engaging in racist harassment of you” and pretending it’s all about gender just to incite a racist hate storm against someone who has openly and repeatedly said he will take all the racist harassment because he can and it means you people don’t harass others… fuuuuuck off. Lose that bullshit narrative. Kill the cop in your head and move on.
@aud so what other kinds of bigotry are fine if it’s against a harasser?
@destroy@masto.anarch.cc Why don't you go ask David and the tech.lgbt crew why the fuck they keep harassing Ro first? Rather than a one off misgendering followed by introspection about why he shouldn't do that again.
Ro does not owe his harasser respect. Ro owes himself safety. The idea that someone, when being harassed, should take the time to go check out pronouns so they avoid hurting David's feelings _while David is actively engaging in anti-Black activities_ is horseshit.
@aud you’re actively engaging in anti-trans activities by saying gender is a gift given by other people to trans people they respect
@destroy@masto.anarch.cc I'm trans, fuckface. I'm literally NOT saying that. I am providing context to help calm a racist shit storm that is being stirred.
@destroy@masto.anarch.cc Give Ro the grace you'd give to anyone else who accidentally misgendered someone. The fact that David and tech.lgbt have been facilitating abuse agaainst him for well over a year now... how is that not important in your eyes? Ah, Ro made a misstep, time to bring the weight of the hammer against him! Nevermind tech.lgbt's racist horseshit.
@aud it’s not about the accidental misgendering it’s about saying David doesn’t deserve to be gendered correctly
@destroy@masto.anarch.cc When David is harassing Ro, David is not owed the respect to have their pronouns checked, no. Ro is not obliged to go click through to David's profile to check their pronouns before discussing the active racist harassment Ro is being subjected to.
DAVID OWES IT TO RO TO KEEP HIS NAME OUT OF THEIR MOUTH.
@destroy@masto.anarch.cc There was no purposeful misgendering in the original post, and Ro has backed down and further thought about his followup post.
Do you know why Ro hasn't apologized? Because he _didn't do anything wrong_ because he didn't deliberately misgender someone.