#fediblock for Are0h at h-i.social for unrepentant misgendering, aka transphobia and enbyphobia
it pains me to do this but i can't just sit idly by while my fellow queers are dehumanized. i know a lot of people like this guy and the stuff he does. but we wouldn't allow anyone else to misgender people on fedi and just get away with it, so why should this be any different? and it's not like it was just a one-time accident. he's doing it repeatedly knowing full-well the implications and continually trying to justify it
misgendering is NEVER okay. even if you dislike somebody. anything less than unquestioning respect for whatever pronouns somebody might have shows a severe lack of care for the trans and nonbinary community as a whole. an injury to one is an injury to all. i don't care if somebody literally murdered your dog or something you can't fucking misgender them. there's a baseline of human decency here
normally on cyberpunk.lol we try our hardest to stay out of fedi meta. but it hurts so bad to see people largely rally behind a person who dehumanizes queer identities on purpose. i have to take a stand and stick to my principles. i know it'll hurt. but i have to. i know there'll be backlash but it's worth it to be true to my values
btw i'm definitely not saying you should harass him. just block and move on
https://h-i.social/@are0h/112957244630941245
https://h-i.social/@are0h/112957712281689753
https://h-i.social/@are0h/112957745584762628
please don't defederate us over this btw lol. i rely on mutual aid from the fediverse to survive. by encouraging people to defederate us en masse you'd be actively attempting to isolate me from my support network. this could have DEADLY consequences if i'm no longer able to recieve the help i need. that's basically attempted murder with extra steps. and this isn't even that goddamn important
cis people don't get misgendered when they do horrible shit so why is it suddenly okay with queer trans nonbinary people?
and fwiw YES i HAVE gone out of my way to look up the pronouns of people who've harassed me. people we've had to defederate. because it's basic fucking decency towards all queer people
i'm not trying to take sides in the screencapped conflict btw. and for the people asking why i haven't made a post about david harassing Are0h... i'm not too familiar with that whole meta situation tbh. i just saw a lot of meta about misgendering people you don't like. and then i saw the source of it. and i felt i needed to take action because intentional misgendering is NEVER okay and defending it after the fact even moreso
this is hardly an apology. it's a dismissal and minimization
@vantablack it IS an admission that they misgendered them unintentionally, which is very different from willingly doing so for the sake of harm.
This is something that abolitionists talk about harm reduction and acknowledgement. It'll never be perfect and seeking it only helps to replicate the systems we're aiming to eradicate.
@jalcine @vantablack that’s the exact problem. He *did* misgender intentionally to cause harm and won’t even apologize. The posts I see in the screenshots are textbook transphobia, where gender is wielded as a weapon against a trans person.
@destroy@masto.anarch.cc @jalcine@todon.eu @vantablack@cyberpunk.lol No, he did not. He has had David blocked for ages and had no way of knowing David's pronouns when that post was made.
@vantablack @jalcine @aud he literally said he doesn’t respect David’s identity or humanity I don’t know how much more clear it can be?
@destroy@masto.anarch.cc @vantablack@cyberpunk.lol @jalcine@todon.eu Why should he respect his harasser? And the "misgendering" was literally not on purpose.
@aud @jalcine @vantablack so I can call the Filipino who raped me racial slurs?
@destroy@masto.anarch.cc @jalcine@todon.eu @vantablack@cyberpunk.lol Don't engage in hyperbole. I'm very sorry that happened to you, but do NOT compare Ro unknowingly using the wrong pronouns for David to rape.
@vantablack @jalcine @aud i’m comparing it to racial slurs. and it isn’t unknowingly anymore. Ro has been saying that misgendering someone isn’t wrong.
@destroy@masto.anarch.cc @vantablack@cyberpunk.lol @jalcine@todon.eu Ro literally came back and gave it more thought. And you... fine, yeah, I did get that backwards. And no, it wouldn't be fine! A racist slur is different from a misgendering. Why? Because pronouns aren't slurs; you can't accidentally say one. You CAN accidentally use the wrong pronoun when all you know is someone's name, especially when it's typically a gendered one.
@aud @vantablack @jalcine it’s not about an accidental misgendering it’s about the stance that David’s gender is something that doesn’t need to be respected
@destroy@masto.anarch.cc @vantablack@cyberpunk.lol @jalcine@todon.eu Which he backed down from. But ffs, again: why are ONLY Ro's actions and statements up for argument here? Why is that the only thing anyone is bothered by and not the DDOSing, the harassment, the isolation and blocking of Black led communities?
@aud @jalcine @vantablack @destroy
Ro did not apologize for saying that the humanity of someone shouldn't be respected if they're racist. This is crucial. Respect for every person's humanity regardless of their actions cannot ever be put in question. This is plain bigotry.
@lulu@hachyderm.io @jalcine@todon.eu @vantablack@cyberpunk.lol @destroy@masto.anarch.cc Except that's not what happened. And how is someone being racist respecting the humanity of the other person? How is that not at least just as bad? When you include that tech.lgbt has been harassing Ro for a while now but Ro has literally only ever had this to say about David, how is that not worse?
@aud @jalcine @vantablack @destroy
"I am under no obligation to respect the humanity of someone who has caused so much harm to people who look like me."
Enough with the whataboutism. The context doesn't matter. This statement is harmful and bigoted. A direct apology addressing it is needed.
@aud @jalcine @vantablack @lulu how do you know what energy I have exerted? You know nothing about me