Being a transfemme public figure, even on a small scale, puts you into contact with such an overwhelming deluge of double standards and collective gaslighting that at some point you simply accept that you are being consigned to an alternate reality than the one you perceive and can demonstrate.
I think a lot of my growth recently has come in deciding how I'm going to grapple with that - trying to salvage my reputation by traditional means does not work when people literally will not acknowledge that they scrutinize me differently than they scrutinize others.
I will be impugned for doing absolutely normal things that every other creator also does, but when I do them they are, for some reason, bad and evidence of malignancy.
There is a certain highly personal, reclamatory freedom that comes from seeing the absurdity for what it is and reformulating approach accordingly.
@DemonMama the hate against Transfemmes specifically is such a weird phenomenon.. I don't even understand why they're so fervent in their hate.. I know they hate Transmasc people too but like.. why the obsession with Transfemmes? If anyone has an idea why please enlighten me. I have several theories but I'd like to hear from y'all.
@KomradeKemet I think it comes from the fact that america is so hypermasculine societally. As a result, misogyny is hypercharged, which intersects with transphobia. This is what is often referred to as "transmisogyny"
That's not to say transmasc ppl don't suffer they absolutely, unequivocally do. Transphobia against transmascs takes different shapes. the public eye, here in the US and in US discourse, is constantly fixated on transfemmes for violating so many societal taboos at once.
@DemonMama I can definitely confirm.. in my little corner of the planet it is the case too.. culture is a copy pasta after all... was an incredibly unsettling thing I found the same talking points of Republicans in my national discourse.
I think it's utterly justifiable the people's boldily autonomy and even identity are discriminated against in any way. It's such a clown world we live in demonmama.