@destroy @lydiaposting this is entirely true- I think that the self-conscious experimentation with and creation of new social dynamics, and placing those experiments in dialogue with each other to grow from is one of the most critical things that anyone can do
Sometimes tho, and this is the reason for my "not to be all the revolution starts at home" disclaimer, just focusing in on the places we as individuals intersect with new social forms isn't enough- the force that makes everyone march to its beat has to be broken to create the situation that allows new people to step into a new way of living. So maybe the revolution does start at home, but also, until people who have never met are in situations where new forms of relation are taking established, there is no change.
Its not a dichotomy that's is useful tho, imo people who want to upend this world should seek to intervene on both personal relationships and the objective structures that created them to destroy this world dynamic