Are poly folks usually pretty understanding if you said like, it's not a deal breaker for being friends/FWBs but would be a deal breaker for relationships?
@eris i might word it slightly differently. but i think a lot of poly people know that not all friends (including fwb) are people you want to live with or whatever. some people that are fun, aren't reliable.
@exiliaex yeah I'm not sure how to word it properly. Like I'm all for knowing more people, caring about more people in my life etc but I also know that if we're romantically _committing_ and not just taking it casual, then I don't want to be in a polycule or to have to share the person I'm committing too (triggers my BPD when it comes to relationships)