@lackingsaint i think a lot of people struggle to see life as possibility. instead they see the patterns and assume them unbeatable, unchangeable
@destroy @lackingsaint i don't know why happiness/hope and accuracy/honesty/truth are at odds here.
i think it's important to be honest, truthful, realistic; to not eschew evidence in favor of naivety. knowing and accepting failures as a possibility is part of being honest with ourselves. but, if we refuse hope and happiness itself, how can we struggle for anything beyond us?
i don't think it'd be "minimizing unnecessary suffering" to tell someone in the lowest lows of their depression that "actually you're totally right, life is worthless, nothing has any meaning, everything is empty, no one loves you, love is just a chemical reaction in the brain" *even* if every single one of those things is "true" to some extent, from a certain point of view.
i think, it'd actually be really harmful to tell someone those things. it wouldn't alleviate their depression, because the framing itself is devoid of hope, devoid of the possibility of change, devoid of the faintest light of happiness, trust, love, that gives meaning to the relationships in our lives, and thus, to our lives.
and, while i can sympathize with the sentiment (that we should avoid unnecessary suffering) i think it's a destructively nihilistic outlook, that takes a hopeless POV as truth because it's easier to accept emptiness than struggle for change.
@exiliaex @lackingsaint I agree with this but I don’t even necessarily accept that we need to struggle for change vs accept emptiness I think it’s important to try to find happiness worth living for in the world as it exists for you